I sometime think all free souls should have such self-talk:

Life for me is not about what others think I am not; and much less so about what others think I should be; I know I deserve the mind set that says: I am as good as the courage and confidence I should have to deal with happening in my life not as comments on my manhood but just a residue of an honored life; a life that is not disturbed neither by triumph nor by failure.